Can diabetics be sexy?!?

(Clare) #1
    This is my first time on here but I don't know any other diabetics to ask!  I'm a woman in my late 20's-T1 for 20 years.  I've had boyfriends, but sometimes I'm not interested in dating, I just want to have sex! (I can't believe I'm saying that out loud!)  I always feel like I need to explain and even apologize for my CGM; I used to be on the pump but went off after College because I hated explaining it to guys- I'm fine telling them I'm diabetic but hate having a physical marker.        

I definitely have a complex around my diabetes, which I’m working on in therapy. I have truly no idea where I got the notion that having a little machine attached to me makes me unattractive (no guy has ever said anything to me) but I find myself planning when I might hook up with someone around when I change my CGM, so I can just take it off, which feels crazy.
I’m wondering if anyone else has struggled with self-acceptance, or has any tips for how to feel sexy even when you have a CGM or pump attached. I now think having T1 makes me capable and strong, and anyone who doesn’t see that isn’t worth my time, but when I’m hooking up or having sex I really struggle to be okay with the visible marker of my diabetes. I may have some core beliefs about what a woman is supposed to look like that are getting in the way, but if anyone has dealt with this and come to love themselves naked with a CGM or pump on, I would love some support!

(Brandon A. Denson) #2

Hey @c999,

My name is Brandon A. Denson. I’ve had T1D for 14 years. From high school, college, football, and traveling I definitely understand where you’re coming from. You own your diabetes never forget that. No one should judge people but in this day in age you never know what you’ll get. You’re as cool, sexy, fun, attractive, awesome, dope, beautiful as you allow yourself to be. If people want to look at you funny or act different towards you because you’re taking the ultimate measures to stay healthy dealing with T1D, you don’t need them around. Do YOU be YOU, no matter what. If people can’t accept what you deal with and go through then it’s time to cut ties, no hard feelings but just no time for bafoonary lol… If you have any questions feel free to connect. Take care.

(Dennis J. Dacey, PWD) #3

Thank you Brandon @denson28y for forcefully and compassionately writing what I had been trying to put into words.

Yes clare @c999 you own your diabetes and there isn’t anyone with the power to take it from you - live your life to its fullest the way you feel like living and never feel less of yourself because you have been “blessed” with diabetes. In the 60 years that I have lived with diabetes, I have managed [not always well but I learn from mistakes] to make diabetes fit into whatever I desired to do - just ask my wife of half a century, our kids and our grandkids. OK, now in my late 70’s having had diabetes since I was a teen, I’m slowing down a bit.

Go for it kid - LIVE!