My step daughter, 9, was diagnosed with T1D last April. It was a lot at once, but we have a good support team between the school nurse and her endo so I thought we were doing good. It was a learning curve, but for the most part she was checking her bs when she needed to and being responsible with her food choices and we got her a1c to 7. Then the last 3 months she started sneaking candy and sweets at school. She has a pump and could easily take a bolus, but she doesn’t ask us or the school nurse to have the treat so she ends up running high. Then she will use the excuse that her tubing must be kinked or her site needs changed. Sometimes even picking at her site in order to blame her highs on the pump.
My husband and I, along with our 3 year old daughter like to eat healthy. We try to eat low carb even when my step daughter is at a friends or grandparents (she lives with us full time, mother passed away when she was 5) We don’t really keep any sweets in the house because we don’t eat them ourselves. Sometimes my husband will have a pop, but they are few and far between. So, with that being said, we try to have my step daughter follow a low carb diet as well while also trying to let her be a normal kid. We try to keep her meals under 60 carbs. We let both girls have diet pop occasionally and otter pops. We usually let her have cake/candy twice a week at school depending on what parties they have going on. Towards the end of school we know it’s a lot of celebrating so we allowed her to have 5 treats in the last 7 days hoping that if she had more, she wouldn’t feel the need to sneak treats. But she is still sneaking.
Are we being too strict? Could this be an age thing? or possibly her just wanting to control what she is doing? We are concerned with her physical health, but we are even more concerned about her mental health and lying. We had her in counseling for 3.5 years after her mom passed away, but we are unsure if that is the right answer. Any advice would be very helpful. TIA!