Sarah @Sarah1196 ,
Sarah I smile to myself as you ask questions about wine and the fact that you will soon be 21; our granddaughter, also named Sarah, will be 21 in just over two months and she too will be drinking wine - she does not have diabetes but did have a sip at our last dinner party - and had questions.
Yes, I definitely keep my same carb ratios when I enjoy my wine with dinner and when I count all the carbs in the food correctly, my BGL a few hours later is usually just where I want it to be. I would suggest caution when you have your first few glasses [ well, always caution with anything new] and have a glass of wine with a meal that you know so that other factors are not affecting your BG. If you are eating at a restaurant, check the carb content in the meal and have a good idea what your bolus amount should be; CalorieKing has fairly accurate carb counts for chain restaurants. Having a glass of wine at a meal you prepare and know carbs for your portion size is a ‘safe’ time to learn.
I like that you feel comfortable, you say ‘increasingly nervous’, about leading a normal, full life and managing your diabetes to fit your lifestyle; there really isn’t anything we can not do or achieve.