I would like to give my reply to this from the kid point of view. I am an adult now but I was diagnosed at age 9. Please do not feel guilty about laughing and being a normal person; I knew when my parents were feeling down about their kid having diabetes and it didn’t really help me much. It’s ok to be sad and overwhelmed, but don’t feel guilty about being “normal” too. You not laughing or having fun won’t change the circumstances. Actually I would say you probably need to have more laughing and fun events than parents whose kids do not have diabetes. Take time for yourself. It will help him too.
I read once that parents of kids with “special needs” of any sort have to grieve their expectations of what their kid’s life is going to be. No one expects their kid to have a life long illness; so grieve it. Grieve it then resolve yourself to training your kid to live a normal life, just with extra diligence. Looking back, I think the diagnosis was harder on my parents than it was on me. I adjusted and really do not know life any different. He will probably be the same. As far as the pit in your stomach…I’m not sure when that goes away. Although, my mom the other day, when I pulled my pump out to bolus, told me she had kind of forgotten I was diabetic! Ha. So maybe 18 years? haha. No, I think it goes away sooner than that.
Talk to your Dr about the lantus pain. Maybe they can switch to a different long term. Although, I am a huge insulin pump fan. I would highly suggest considering that!