Hi, This November I’ll have had diabetes for 20 years. I was diagnosed just before I turned 10.
I’ve just moved in with my partner of 3 years and I never expected that allowing someone else into the ins and outs of my care would be such a difficult part of cohabitation. The biggest struggle is how I act when my blood sugar is low. As I’m sure many of you have experienced, it is impossible for me to multitask when low. I’m on a mission to get juice or some other carb into my body and it’s like that is all I can handle. My boyfriend, who is very supportive and caring, will try to help me and it usually ends with me snapping at him.
For example, last night we were making dinner together. When we started my CGM was at 85, but about 20 minutes into food prep I was 65 and dropping. I had to stop what I was doing to get juice and he asked me “are you going to be ok?” To which i snapped “I don’t know! I’m doing everything I can!”…not an appropriate or even rational response. He understands it’s the hypoglycemia talking but he’a also a human being and I know it hurts to have his partner yell at him when he’s trying to help. We’ve talked about how it’s more helpful to me when I’m low if he asks direct questions, so rather than “are you going to be ok?” instead ask “do you need me to help you?”
I also know that even though hypoglycemia makes me insanely irritable, I don’t get to claim total innocence here. I still have to take responsibility for how I treat others. I’m wondering how other people handle their emotions and irritability when they are low and if it’s been a problem with their partners or spouses?