My name is Sarah, and although I’m 36, I have been living since I was 4 with T1D, so maybe I can tell you what I have lived in my 32 years as diabetic.
I know how you feel but maybe because is the only kind of life that I have met, I carry with it, and yes, I know that some times it’s not easy at all.
Firstly, I think is more about how do you feel about being diabetic and sharing your life with others, more than what the ‘impolite and rough-spoken’ people tell you.
Don’t let nobody push you down because you’re diabetic. Diabetes doesn’t stops your life, and I speak by experience that we are who limit our lives.
Always, when I’m metting someone new (maybe not the first minute but as soon as I consider it appropriate), or I’m starting in a new school (I’m going to start again the uni on October) or I’m in a new job, I make them aware of my condition, not because I’m ill (I’m quite well controlled) but because it’s safe for me that if they know what’s going on, they can help me in case I need it.
Whoever doesn’t accept you the way you are , let them go, and keep with you the good ones. If someone is rude telling you things like if you’re drug addict, give your best face with a smile and tell them that you’re diabetic and addicted to life… nothing to hide or feel embarrassed.
Years ago when I was using pens, I was trying to hide when doing my injections but with the time it was like… if they have a question, they can do it and I will explain. Now I’m on insulin pump and the same, I was trying to hide it, but do you know what? Those things no longer have that big effect on me, no more. If someone sees my pump, what it’s easy because I place it on my trousers pocket, and they ask, I explain it, and people amazes about how the technology can improve our lives, you would be surprised they way the people reacts when you’re confident and open about it.
I remember when I was 19 or 20 I was so tired being diabetic (as I can see maybe that’s the age we feel that way) always with the insulin, with doctors, blood tests… One day I didn’t appear for my doctor’s appointment and without telling nothing to nobody I took a sabbatic year of my diabetes. I was no so well controlled but I still kept doing my prick tests and my injections, but nobody was controlling me except me. Maybe it wasn’t the best idea, but I was annoyed of being under control of everyone except myself. After that year I came back stronger and I started to look better after my diabetes, of my life. Please, don’t misunderstand me, don’t do it. I already was 15-20 years diabetic, so more or less I knew what I was doing. I just want you to understand that before or after, all of us arrive to that point of tiredness, and you’re moment is now, so think of you and forget about what the rest says or think and enjoy your life.
I have had different relationships and boyfriends. I’m married 13 years ago. I have a son of 8 (completely healthy). I have had my own business. I travel as much as I can. I play sports. And now I’m living in another country with a different language and as I told you, I’m about to start the university again…
You’re not your diabetes, you can do everything you wish, but you have to be confident and live with your diabetes as part of your life and not as the problem of it. And if someone doesn’t like it, don’t give them the power or control to make you feel bad, because there is nothing bad in being diabetic.
Every time someone treats me like they feel sad for me because of being diabetic, I always answer the same: diabetes is annoying but thankfully doesn’t affect my goals in life and always there will be someone on a worst situation than me or with a more difficult life because of an illness, so I’m happy with my life. Of course I would prefer not being diabetic, but isn’t the end of my world.
So please, I do apologise for so long answer, but there’s nothing bad with you, and if anyone makes you feel the opposite, show them your back and go to the next step with a smile.
Caleb keep strong, live your life and look after yourself. Remember that you’re not alone, you always will have your family, your good friends… and us. Love yourself with all your things and everything will be better