Kelsey @Mommybray09, you have been through a lot in just a very short time. I feel for you.
I suspect that your daughter is too young to know how serious her condition is, and that may be good as long as you are learning and you can be her mentor. A suggestion, if at all possible keep positive around her and shed your tears - there will be many - with someone else, and with the many caring and thoughtful people here. Your thought about letting her grow up as a “normal” girl are awesome - my moto, and I’ve had diabetes for 60 years, is live a full, active and productive life and manage [my] diabetes to fit.
You said that she has to eat at a different time than her classmates; that is because [you] she is attempting to fit meals to scheduled insulin doses - a very common practice prescribed for newly diagnosed when trying to get an idea how insulin affects her and what foods need more, or less, insulin. You are on a learning curve - and I’m still learning too. Eventually she will be able to have basal insulin levels / rates that match her body and then take a bolus insulin to cover meals; as a business executive I was able to travel cross country, attend meetings and dinners scheduled at ‘crazy’ times. I made it work and maintained an Hb A1c within a decimal point of 6.0.
I like your positive attitude - your attitude that you WILL do the very best for her and she will be fine. Yeah, the finger-sticks and shots are a real pain but at sometime all that stuff will be second nature to her and to you.
Stay in touch and don’t hesitate to post questions [I try to respond to most posts, not as a medical professional but from my life experience with diabetes; correct, I’m far from perfect and I’ve made mistakes but I’ve learned.