Sid, she can still eat carbs, it just that you have to take bolus insulin for it. There are lots of general equations about how much to take/carb (generally 1 unit of bolus for 10-15 grams of carbs), but everyone is different and they don’t always effect us the same (this is a psychotic disease). My view is that having a lot of carbs makes it harder to figure out the right amount of bolus and just makes it more guess work on how much to take, so I limit them. May not be a problem for her though. Remember, we are always walking a tightrope, long term too high and complications set in, a bad low and you end up in the hospital or, sorry to say, worse. So, make sure she is checking her levels a lot. Without insurance a Continuous Glucose monitor (“CGM”) may be too costly, but if you guys can swing it, highly recommended. It has changed my life.
In terms of alcohol, you don’t have to give it up, just be careful. It is counter intuitive, but alcohol generally does not increase Blood sugar (it does if you mix it with carb heavy mixers like orange juice with vodka). For me, red wine doesn’t have a big impact and I do love it. Metabolically, your liver works on metabolizing the alcohol first instead of dumping glucose in your system. Again, just be careful and make sure she checks her sugars a lot.
In terms of eating out, download an app from “one drop” it’s free (I think or is really cheap if not free) and it certainly has most chain restaurant items in it, telling you carb counts, protein, calories, etc. You can also query it for general foods like an 8 ounce flounder fillet with breading, etc. I don’t count calories at all, but certainly do carbs.
Hope some of this helps, lot of experience dealing with this myself (51 years and counting) and lots of others here as well. JC