I was diagnosed last year, at age 55. It was devastating to me, and I was an absolute mess. Like your husband, I was in the honeymoon period for a while. I was not on insulin, I had mood swings from the fluctuations in my BG levels, and I was severely depressed. The looming fear of what my life would be like when the honeymoon period would eventually end and I would be dependent on insulin for the rest of my life, the fear of complications, the fear of lows, and knowing that things can only get worse was excruciating.
Fortunately I had a wonderful endocrinologist. She set me up with a CGM so that I could closely monitor my BG. After several tries, I also found a good therapist.
I also recently attended a 4 day “Mastering Your Diabetes” class at the University of Miami (spouses are encouraged to attend too). The class has made a huge difference for me.
My honeymoon period ended a few months ago. Fortunately the class gave me the tools and guidance I needed to use insulin with confidence. Over time my BG has become more controlled, and both my mood and outlook have improved.
T1D is a very hard diagnosis to come to terms with, especially if it is totally unexpected, as was the case with me. Your husband is very lucky to have you in his life. Please know that he does appreciate you and your efforts to support him, even if he may not always show it.